Valentine’s Day can be a little bit exclusive. Over-hyped as a day of love, it can make those who are not in romantic relationships feel as though they’re the only ones in the world who are alone. If you’ve recently lost a spouse or partner, this can be particularly painful. How can you get through this holiday without negative feelings? Use it as a day to honor your loved one.
- Honor the one you loved by taking care of yourself. Dedicate Valentine’s Day to you this year, focusing on self-care instead of buying into the hype. Book a spa day or a massage, spend some time outside, turn off your phone and spend the day reading: what’s important is that you do whatever you feel like doing, and make the day all about pampering yourself.
- Alternately, spend the day taking care of others. This could mean donating your time or money to a charity that was meaningful to your loved one, or it could mean spending time with people who were important to your partner. You might even consider hosting a Valentine’s get together with friends and family members who also loved that person.
- Spend some time focusing on the memory of the person who was so important to you. Make your partner’s favorite meal, listen to his or her favorite music, visit the gravesite and bring flowers, or do something you know he or she would have loved doing. Take some time to truly honor your loss by remembering all that your loved one meant to you, and then celebrate all the good times you had together.
- Give yourself permission to grieve. If all you want to do is spend the day poring over old photo albums and feeling sad, that’s ok too. Each person’s grief journey is unique, and you can honor your loved one through your grief, too. Remembering lost love is important, and acknowledging your own emotions is an important part of the healing process.
The Catholic Cemeteries of the Diocese of San Jose is proud to be a part of the Catholic Community in San Jose, California. Committed to providing a sacred place where families can remember loved ones in a peaceful and hope-filled setting, we welcome you and your family to visit our properties and experience the peace of these prayerful places. If you have questions, we’re happy to answer them. We have three locations: Calvary Catholic Cemetery in San Jose, Gate of Heaven Cemetery in Los Altos, and St. John the Baptist Cemetery in Milpitas. If you’d like to know more about our properties, or you need to know where to send flowers, you can contact us through our website, or call Calvary at 833-428-0379, Gate of Heaven at 833-304-0763, or St. John the Baptist at 833-428-0379.